Comments on: The Need to Be Liked

By: Dave B

Dave B — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I needed to hear this today. Thank you for posting this.

By: Phil Bransom

Phil Bransom — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I really like you Phil… : )

By: Joseph Bruno

Joseph Bruno — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Phil you just have no idea what you're talking about! :} (please note the smiley face, just joking)

It is a good point. How do you tell honest criticism from just plain nasty? A good indicator is that the posts are anonymous. If I have a problem with someone I tell them, they know where it's coming from. If it's a legitimite criticism then I should not feel ashamed to put my name on it. I had posted on a forum and began getting some anonynos snipes. I posted again and advised that if you don't have the fortitude to identifiy yourself then I don't feel obligated to respond to your comment.

Truth will always stand up to scruitny. You should never be ashamed to tell the truth.

By: Jenna

Jenna — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Thanks, Phil, I REALLY needed to hear this today!

By: Dominique

Dominique — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Well, Phil, you did it again! A very timely article!

You wouldn't believe the names I have been called in just the past week! I wasn't just shocked and hurt but stunned that people had no problem calling people they don't know such names. Wow...

Anyway, thank you for writing this post.

By: cynthia

cynthia — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Just thinking about how everyone - at least it seems in America, is negative, critical and cynical. Stone throwing a favorite sport even among Christians. The antidote to criticism would be thankfulness - and we have so much more to be thankful for than most - but on the other hand the pervasive overcast sky of cynicism is a result of lack of trust or faith in institutions that have become self serving or corrupt.

A few favorite quotes:

"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

you can always tell a pioneer by the arrows in his back ...

By: Michael

Michael — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Really great article and very necessary when are often placed in the public eye!

Thanks!

By: Keith G.

Keith G. — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Unfortunately, most people can't handle criticism, however all us can dish it... We the best and worst criticism comes from our family, and I'm sure that is what hurt this pastor and his wife the most. It's the best because they really know who we are and know our weaknesses, and that is what needs to be exposed in order to get better. They are the worst because we don't know who to give it tactfully.

I made a comment on April 1 about Delirious' new they had released that day. My title, not so tactful, "Great Album, April Fools". However I went on to talk about how wonderful their first few albums were, and the great music that they put out then. I then mentioned that they last few albums have not been that great, and maybe it was time to take a break and reinvent themselves.

The end result, 3 out of 44 found the review useful. I got more of a response than anyone, It was a negative response. Then, four mounths later they announce that they were calling it quits. Now, I sincerly hope I had nothing to do with, and I'm sure my one comment had very little if anything to do with their decision. However my point with them was, if your doing the same thing over and over and the results aren't changing, it's time to do something different. What's the old saying, "Your just beating a dead horse."

As believers we don't want the criticism or the correction, but that is what the Lord himself does at times. As human beings, we are brought up in a fashion that when we are children whatever we do, we want to please our mother, father, & family. So when we don't live up to expectations we fell as though we have failed, and that is ingrained into us till be die...

By: Rob Sheppard

Rob Sheppard — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Yes!!! I have often been in the same situation. When you challenge people's status quo, they often fight back irrationally because they are afraid of change or they consider it an affront to some personal agenda. I love the idea of taking a higher perspective. I will probably overreact at times (I certainly am no Jesus!), but I will remember your thoughts. After all, if people can "dislike Jesus", who am I to think I would be different? Sometimes God does give us messages to communicate that will attract criticism.