Posts Tagged ‘Criticism’



Name Calling: Why Do Christians Do It?

We’ve seen it over the years – discussions and disagreements in the Christian community that start out well, but then slide into name calling. I’ve seen it over the “worship wars,” creation versus intelligent design arguments, the emergent church, and more. But even after all that, I have to admit to being a bit shocked at the level of venom the discussion of Read the full article »

Are Negative Comments Online Damaging Creativity?

Blogs have comment sections. Facebook has comments. People can respond to anything you say on Twitter. Social media is not just about being “social,” it’s about getting a response. The problem is, many of us debut creative ideas online. We try out the subject of a new book, or present a concept for an ad campaign or movie idea. In similar cases, leaders toss out new ideas to see what people think. But sometimes, Read the full article »

When it Comes to Your Career, Stop Complaining About What’s Unfair

Over the years I’ve worked with many artists and leaders who are frustrated because of the attention someone similar to them receives. Perhaps the other person got a better book deal, or has a more successful TV show. Perhaps their nonprofit organization raises more money – even though it’s work isn’t as important. The truth is – many times these clients are right. The world isn’t fair. Books that aren’t very good often reach the bestseller lists. There are some horrible TV programs that generate a lot of support. Bad movies often do well at the box office. Whatever the case, I can sympathize with their frustration that others are doing better. My advice? Read the full article »

How To Deal With Critics

I get my fair share of critics on this blog, so I thought I’d write on how I deal with them. I wrote about issue in my book “One Big Thing” and it’s good advice during the difficult times when you receive criticism for your ideas, projects, performance, and more.  Here are a few important tips when criticism comes your way: Read the full article »

Let’s Stop Blaming God for Our Failures

Maybe it’s because I’ve spent so much of my career working in advertising and marketing, but after a Christian event where nobody shows up, when I hear the phrase, “Well, the people that needed to be here were here,” it sure seems to me like an excuse. We hear it all the time when only a handful of people show up to an event: “Well, only 6 people came, but I believe those were the people God wanted here.” Really? I don’t want to sound harsh and ungodly here, but Read the full article »

Stop Listening to the “Devil’s Advocate”

In every creative or leadership meeting there’s a “devil’s advocate.” No matter how great your idea, there’s always someone who pops in with “Let me just play the devil’s advocate for a minute…” And then proceeds to trash your concept. This will be a short blog, because here’s your answer: Read the full article »

Raymond Chandler’s Opinion of TV

“Television’s perfect. You turn a few knobs, a few of those mechanical adjustments at which the higher apes are so proficient, and lean back and drain your mind of all thought. And there you are watching the bubbles in the primeval ooze. You don’t have to concentrate. You don’t have to react. You don’t have to remember. You don’t miss your brain because you don’t need it. Your heart and liver and lungs continue to function normally. Apart from that, all is peace and quiet. You are in the man’s nirvana. And if some poor nasty minded person comes along and says you look like a fly on a can of garbage, pay him no mind. He probably hasn’t got the price of a television set.”     ― Detective Novelist Raymond Chandler Read the full article »

Can You Take the Heat When it Gets Tough?

This week a major political candidate dropped out of the race because of multiple allegations of sexual misconduct.  I don’t know the man, and we can’t know right now if the allegations are truthful.  But whatever the case, it derailed his political dreams.  Whatever you think of this or other candidates, there’s two very obvious lessons here: Read the full article »

The Need to Be Liked

A pastor who’s a client of ours has the largest church in his city.  Recently, the local paper did a major story on the church, and although it was pretty positive, when the story was posted online, he was shocked at the number of really vicious and nasty comments from numerous anonymous online posters.   (Isn’t it interesting that the worst comments are always from people afraid to identify themselves?)

He asked me, “What about the critics?  That’s hurtful stuff.”  His wife told me how upsetting it was, and how challenging it is living in the public eye.  They asked me how they should deal with criticism:  “Do you just develop a thick skin and not care anymore?   We don’t want to get to that place, but we have to admit that constant sniping and criticism can wear us down.”

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