When I told my closest Christian friends that my wife was leaving me and filing for divorce, I got silence back. My guilt and pain over the divorce were made worse by the apparent disapproval from people I had lived loved and worked with in churches and ministries for some 20 years.  My bitterness became not only for my ex-wife, but for these friends.  I am sorry to say after a few months, I lashed out at them in an angry e-mail, expressing this bitterness and loss.  Meanwhile, those non-believers I felt close enough to tell all consoled me and offered to help. They were far more supportive than my Christian friends.

While I am still dealing with the residual pain of divorce, but moving on, and I sent an apology to those friends I chastised, it seems it was too little too late.  I am not blaming them, but I wish there had been some training or instruction that they could have accessed to help me, for all our sakes…

Christians are getting divorced as often as the rest of the world, molestation cases are on the rise in the church, HURT exists as much if not more in the church, and we need to know how to deal with it in a Christian way – besides silent prayer (or at least tell those folks you’re praying – it may seem shallow, but it’s better than silence).